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Myths about girls that we have to stop preaching

20 Jul

You may think you know everything about your body..or your girlfriend’s body or your wife’s body or your friend with benefits’ body. Maybe in your head you are an ultimate sex god. Maybe you think you are a total noob. Thing is, there are a few things that you really have to know, be it for yourself, for a friend or your future daughter or anyone that could ask you questions and that you won’t want to mislead. Today, we are debunking myths.

Please note that I was gonna put a warning sign at the top of this article but then realised that everyone should know about what I am addressing and that I have not been vulgar in any way. If you disagree, we can talk about it.

Let's get down to business.

Now, let’s get down to business.

 

Myth no.1: Shaving causes hair to grow back thicker or fuller.

This is one of the biggest myths that have ever been passed on from generations to generations. However, it is just a myth that science easily makes do of. Shaving simply cuts the hair. Hair growth is controlled by hair follicles found just underneath the skin.  There is no way that shaving can affect the follicles deep under the skin since only the outer part of your hair that is already dead is getting cut.   The follicles underneath that determine thickness and growth rate remain completely unaffected by your shaving or not shaving or waxing for that matter. The only factors that could affect the follicles are genetics and hormones.

The shorter hair is just stuck at an angle that makes it look coarse and thick. It is an illusion. It is also just a ‘feeling’ that the hair is stronger and broader when it is shorter, but the actual thickness is exactly the same as when it was when longer.

Myth no.2: You have to shave or wax to enjoy life- or sex.

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It is easy to feel pressurised to shave or wax with all the commercials of beautiful women shaving or waxing their already hair-less long and sexy legs. Maybe all your friends wax and maybe all the women in your family have always shaved but in all honesty, none of this means you have to do so too. You do not have an obligation to do something to your body that you don’t want to do. If you don’t feel like waxing your legs then don’t. If you don’t feel like shaving, fine. It is your body, it is your choice. You don’t have to do it if your boyfriend asks you to. You don’t have to do it if your grandmother thinks it would look prettier. This also works in the other direction: your best friend telling you not to shave is not good reason enough to not do it if you feel like shaving.

Also, this myth concerns pubic hair as well. It is not because clean-shaven pussy is a trend in the porn industry that you have to shave yours, or pressurise your girlfriend into shaving hers. Shaving the pubic area has become very common, even desirable, among teenagers and young adults. And although it may be becoming the social norm, that does not mean you should do it. Again, your body, your choice. However it is important to note that pubic hair exists for a reason and removing it may not be the best idea ever. Some research should be done before your take a razor to your bush.

Fun fact: the average woman is estimated to spend an average of $10,000 on hair removal and shaving products in her entire life. That’s approximately Rs 308,000. Personally, I’d rather spend that on travelling or buying books than on the smoothness of my legs. Ultimately the choice is yours- and yours only- whether you decide to shave/wax or not.

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Myth no.3: The hymen breaks the first time you have sex.

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I’m gonna be honest with you, the first time I heard of the hymen, how it breaks when you have sex for the first time and how after that you are no more a virgin, I was eleven and I did not even understand where the hell the hymen is. I think you are supposed to see it or feel it and it is not even supposed to be complicated. But really, I was at a loss and I was glad to read that many scientists can’t really agree on where the hymen is supposed to be either.

Anyways, let’s talk about hymens. Girls are often led to believe that the hymen is a flat piece of tissue covering the vagina, which is punctured during intercourse. False. “Usually, the hymen looks like a fringe of tissue around the vaginal opening,” says Carol Roye, a nursing professor at Hunter College and a nurse practitioner who specializes in adolescent primary and reproductive health care.. “It is not an intact piece of tissue draped across it. Some girls are born without a hymen, others have only a scanty fringe of tissue. Despite all the mystery around it, we can agree that the hymen is just a body part.” Oh and for your information, hymens don’t “break”. They can get torn during sex or any other physical activity ranging from horse riding to falling off a trampoline but they don’t break. You can’t tear through the hymen the way you could poke a hole in saran wrapper with your fingers. The thing about hymens is that, like any other part of a person’s body, it changes with time. Cleaning, self-exploration, sports and even walking all contribute to thin and widen the hymenal tissue and by the time a girl reaches adulthood, there is little to no tissue remaining around the vaginal opening and it is really not a big deal because your hymen is NOT the sign of your virginity.

 The concept of virginity has an emotional connotation. It is more than just the physical disruption of hymenal tissue.

If a young woman has had a sexual relationship with her partner, and she feels that she has lost her virginity, then she has, regardless of what actually happened to her hymen during the encounter. There are ancillary issues that each woman must answer for herself.

That also means you cannot ‘restore your virginity’ through hymenal reconstructive surgery or with fake hymens. Virginity is in your head.

Myth no.4: Your first time will absolutely hurt.

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I can already hear you from here. “But my first time did hurt! A lot!” Okay, maybe it did hurt but thing is it should not have to hurt. The fact that it is the first time is not the reason behind the pain, correlation is not causation. The pain actually comes from increased muscle tensions due to nervousness. “But I did bleed!” Yes well, that is most likely due to tissues breaking because of lack of lubricating. That in itself would be the result of not enough foreplay and inexperience. “Tissue breaking? You mean my hymen, right?” No. No I do not mean your hymen. What I mean though, is that the main reason girls experience pain the first time they have sex is because they expect to feel pain. This expectation is what causes the nervousness that causes the extra tightness, the lack of natural lubricant, the pain and the bleeding. Forget the hymen. The pain you experience is not the hymen breaking simply because the hymen does not break. Okay? Okay.

Long conclusion: If we stopped telling girls to expect horrible pain on their first times, things would be a lot less painful for them and a lot less troublesome for everyone.

Short conclusion: It is kinda all in your head.

Myth no.5: A tight vagina is a sign of sexual arousal.

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If you thought this was so, I have bad news for you: your life is a lie. Maybe you’ve seen countless of comments and erotic stories and fanfictions mention how “wet tight pussies” are the shit, I’ve seen them too and they are as wrong as can be. A tight vagina is actually a sign of not being sexually stimulated enough. If your girlfriend is really tight it is not an epic win. She is either too nervous or has a medical condition or you are just doing a terrible job at turning her on. Sorry, not sorry. Know that It can take sometimes 20 minutes or more of foreplay for a woman’s vaginal muscles to relax enough to be truly ready for penetrative sex. So take your time and relax.

Myth no.6: Small, petite or even virgin girls have tighter vaginas.

bsBeing small, petite or a virgin is not the reason why a vagina is tighter than usual. Anxiety is the only thing that makes the vaginal musculature clench even tighter. Size, age and sexual experience of a person does not physically affect the vagina. Some tall and huge women can be tight if they’re anxious and some small, young virgins who are relaxed and turned on can be stretched just the right way. Vaginas are elastic and will stretch and expand – sometimes to almost twice their size – during sex, regardless of how big or small you are, if they are rubbed the right way.
However, someone who has sex often may be less anxious that someone who has never had sex before. That is why it is often believed that virgins have tighter vaginas, thing is they are probably just more stressed about the sex.

P.s: This does not refer to children. Children should not be having sex.

Myth no.7: You need to clean your vagina regularly.

britney whaaatYou may be genuinely confused about this one. Maybe all your life you’ve been told to wash your private parts carefully with water and soap or even douche or other cleansing products. But there’s something you have to know: the vagina is a self-cleaning organ. It produces its own vagina-made  protective substances that gets rid of any unwanted bacteria and fluids. “But douche has been specially designed to clean vaginas, right?” Well, yes and no. Most of the time all these feminine cleansing products can do more harm than good by unbalancing the vaginas natural pH and causing irritations. Water should do just the trick. The only time a vagina might need extra help cleaning-wise is if you notice a stronger than usual smell down there. Healthy vaginas should not smell like fish, if yours constantly has this problem you should definitely see a doctor. Yeast infections, dehydration or an excess intake of vitamin supplements could be the problem. In any case, no need to panic. No need to take huge risks either, so just go see a doctor.

Myth no.8: Sex and childbirth will loosen your vagina forever.

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Right, and your girlfriend feeling looser down there is not proof she is cheating on you. Look, as I said above, vaginas are elastic and they most usually always naturally tighten again after sex. The vagina is like an elastic band and unless you have sex 5 times a day every single day, there should not be any visible effect on your vagina. Intercourse does not permanently loosen your vagina.

Similarly, childbirth will not stretch your vagina to the point of no return. Of course, the stretching is not comparable to the one that happens during sex but give it a few months and your ‘va jay jay’ should be back to new. However, age and frequency are important factors and studies have shown that often, the vaginas of young women after multiple births may not snap back entirely back as they were and older women who have give birth more than once in their later days tend to experience “persistent looseness.”

I addressed only 8 myths in this article but there are actually many many more things that people are very wrong about when it comes to the female body so maybe I will write a ‘Part II’ someday. Concerning this article, if you already knew all this, good for you and if you just learned about all this, good for you too. However, if you choose to not believe me and the studies and other articles I used to back this up, it’s your choice I guess but please don’t spread your ignorance and wrongness. Don’t refuse to advise your sisters and girlfriends well. Don’t teach your daughters wrong. Don’t be shy or embarrassed, we are in the 21st century, there’s no more time for this childishness when it comes to the human body.

If you persist, however, to go on perpetuating lies, I have one last gif for you:

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and please be wrong alone.

To the rest of you, have fun and stay safe!

 

p.s: I am not a top-notch vagina expert but I happen to have one and I’ve researched a lot about it since I’ve known how to use the Internet- and that’s been a while really- and I can tell you I would never ever mislead anyone intentionally about vaginas, hygiene, the human body and freedom of choice and I assure you I have not done so in this piece of writing above.

My 10 feel-better things

18 Jun

Sometimes I am sad, like all of us really. But I think I’m a bit special because I become upset for the most trivial stuff, stuff that don’t even have anything to do with me, like a fictional character dying or some fictional character’s goldfish dying. When this happens, I have special no-sadness strategies and I’m gonna share them with you:

10. Sniff my lip balm.

I have two lip balms and they both smell heavenly. One is Labello’s Vitamin Shake and smells like cranberry and raspberry and the other I received in a gift box and is mango and papaya flavoured. Sometimes I’m even tempted to eat them, but I tried that before and it is not happening again for obvious reasons.

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9. Set a cute-ish silly-ish picture as my lock screen wallpaper on my smartphone.

At the moment this is my wallpaper and it does not disappoint:

Deer are SO majestic.

Deer are SO majestic.

Every time I pick my phone up, be it just to check the time, it never fails to make me smile.

 

8. Pet my dog

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He is called MeeFoon and I think he is a Maltese(I’m not super used to English dog breeds names). What I know for sure though is that he is a little ball of love who loves petting 😀 and he perfectly fits this wiki‘s description: “Your Maltese will constantly want to be your right-hand man companion. He will be happy to sit by your side, hour after hour, while you read a book or watch television. But he will also love to accompany you wherever you go. They enjoy a good old fashioned walk with their owners and a trip in the car is always awesome. Maltese make decent watchdogs and will sound alarms when a stranger comes to the door. Once welcomed into the home, though, everyone is his or her friend. ” I thus concluded that MeeFoon is a Maltese.

7. Make Pokefusions.

Or rather, I fool around and create combinations that I wish I could draw. But I can’t draw so it’s not happening. Instead I can browse the Pokefusions tag on Tumblr and be impressed by other people’s art. Basically, good art cheers me up. Good Pokemon art gets me ecstatic. If you have never heard of Pokefusions before and you are a bit curious, here, check this out!

6. Androidify stuff

There’s an app on Play Store called Androidify and I’ve had it for a while. When I’m bored or when I am a bit sad it is my alternative to drawing. Well, it is more like the compromise between “damn, I could not draw to save my life” and “I still need to let the creativity out”. So far I’ve androidified Elvis, Marceline, Marshall Lee and Finn from Adventure Time, Hercule Poirot, Nick Fury, the Black Widow, plenty other fictional characters, celebrities and even some of my friends.

Marceline! This one was pretty basic..

Marceline!
This one was pretty basic..

5. Cook

Recently I started cooking and I found that it was another way for me to be creative. I don’t always follow recipes diligently and sometimes I free-style completely :p

I’ve made lasagna, cottage pie, cupcakes, coconut milk chicken curry, scones…but what I’m most proud of is my red pepper peri peri potato mash. There’s a story behind this pride: I went to Nando’s and had its Chunky Mash as side dish for my wrap. (Note: this is from the Mauritian menu, when I checked online the only other Nando’s menu I saw this mash on was the UAE one.) However my family had ordered too much food and when we shared among ourselves I ended up too full to finish my mash. I was heart broken. I was also determined to try my hand at making this mash at home. There was no recipe on the internet, the odds were not in my favour. So, equipped with imagination, taste and the three ingredients guideline from the menu, “red peppers, onions and peri peri sauce,” I did it. Yes. I did. You want proof?

Ta-daaaa

Ta-daaaa

I might share the recipe on this blog someday soon.

4. Look at the stars

This one is for the night time. I can be sad all day, but the moment the sun sets and I get to be alone outside looking at the stars, everything just seems right. MeeFoon is welcomed to keep me company in those moments but no other human presence is tolerated. Any trespasser won’t get to eat the mash.

3. Listen to Music

I bet you all so this one coming. Who does not listen to music to cheer themselves up when they are sad?  Maybe what you did not see coming is that I either listen to Muse or to my special motivation girl power playlist, because yes I have one. The songs on this playlist are quite varied; from Gloria Gaynor to P!nk en passant par Beyoncé and Natasha Bedingfield. This playlist is for special sadness occasion though. Usually, Muse is enough to get me from depression to revolution 😉 Maybe it is also interesting to note I have an 80s’ music playlist and a Christmas playlist also, that I listen to all year round because why not?

2. Play Face Raiders on my 3DS

Because there is nothing more soothing than hitting my enemies’ faces with yellow balls in 3D. At least, that is the alternative where I don’t get arrested. Yay!

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1. Read through my old birthday cards.

I kept them all, from ever since I was 6 years old. I even have a special drawer for all the birthday cards I’ve received and while reading through them, I can only feel the love. Some of the cards are handmade, some were bought in special cards shop, some are huge and some are tiny but they are all very special to me.

That’s it. That was my feel-good activities list. The order is not actually relevant of the importance or effectiveness of the said activities. Sometimes combinations work better and sometimes a nice long bubble bath while eating M&Ms is all I need to feel better 😉

Ciao,

Lex x.

We’re Doing It Wrong.

19 Jun

Being a woman is not a competition. Why do we keep forgetting this and instead keep cat fighting, backstabbing and judging as if we were in these reality shows? Wait, I remember the reason. We were brought up this way; always thinking we have to prove ourselves to the world and reflect “perfection”.

But we’ve grown up, we’ve seen the world-maybe not a lot of it but probably enough to  understand- we don’t have to be perfect and we should stop expecting others to be. People make choices and mistakes. Maybe somebody’s choices and mistakes are completely different from yours but in no way does that make any of you better than the other if you keep criticizing each other. Being a good woman is not about being tall, thin, intelligent, beautiful, clean and quiet, wearing the highest heels , wearing decent yet sexy clothes, having perfect hair, cooking perfect meals, knowing all about laundry and chores, wearing make-up, having a clean job- and one that does not involve politics, science or engineering, getting married, being a good mother, etc… How many women that you know actually fit all these requirements anyway? Women are individuals, they are more than female. Our gender is only part of who we are; it does not define us as people. We, women, are always claiming that we want to break free from society’s definition of a woman. Yet, the first to criticize a woman if she doesn’t fit the “norm” are women themselves.

Stop Judging!

Stop Judging!

We are the first to lash at somebody about their size, crooked teeth, acne, big nose, weird haircut and so on. And most of the time we are intending to hurt the person with our words. What gives us the right to say these things? None of us are perfect and we will never be, then why?  Criticizing somebody on their physique is the lowest form of insult ever. It is really cheap to feel good about pointing out their insecurities to people. Physical beauty can be altered. Then it fades; you’re never pretty forever. But a judgmental asshole? This can stick to you to the grave.

As Jennifer Aniston once well said, “It’s impossible to satisfy everyone and I suggest we stop trying.” If this can apply to you then it can apply to your neighbour, to your classmate, to your co-worker and to that stranger you saw on the road. They don’t live to satisfy your standards of perfection so stop judging them like some small-minded celebrity news journalist!

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Now to something else, I must admit I’ve always thought that it was men that rendered rape victims responsible for the act because of their “provocative” clothes and/or the level of alcohol in their blood. Apparently, and sadly, I was wrong: women think that too. How can anyone in their right mind dismiss rape as a normal consequence of getting drunk in a mini skirt? No woman “shares responsibility” for her rape. I’ve seen a lot of girls walking around in “provocative” apparel and yet they’ve never been raped and I never thought to myself when they came into view “OMG in such a dress…surely she must want to be raped!” That’s probably because they don’t. When they put on this dress they did not intend to attract rapists. They probably thought that in a free country with smart enough men they would not be taken for sexual objects or preys whatever their clothes. Because it’s true, in a free country, a woman should have the right to dress however she wants with whatever intention without having to fear physical assault.

Recently, Serena Williams have made quite insensitive remarks about the rape of the 16 year old girl by high school footballers. (Yes it’s the Steubenville case I’m referring to.)  What did the world renowned tennis player have to say? That:

“Do you think it was fair, what they got? They did something stupid, but I don’t know. I’m not blaming the girl, but if you’re a 16-year-old and you’re drunk like that, your parents should teach you: Don’t take drinks from other people. She’s 16, why was she that drunk where she doesn’t remember? It could have been much worse. She’s lucky. Obviously, I don’t know, maybe she wasn’t a virgin, but she shouldn’t have put herself in that position, unless they slipped her something, then that’s different.”

So the girl was lucky she was raped? Wow.

And so what if she was drunk? How does that justify her rape exactly? So getting raped is the logical step after getting drunk? Well if that was true everybody would be getting raped at parties and in clubs. The girl’s level of drunkenness cannot and should not in the mind of anybody justify how these boys behaved like animals. Yes, animals. Because not being able to resist sexual temptation to the point of satisfying your “urge” without waiting for consent is expected from animals not humans. Men are humans, when facing temptation they also face a number of choices: ignore the source of temptation, walk away if you really can’t stand it or  yield in disregarding your education and the respect you are to show your fellow humans; yield in like an animal because you’re that weak. Most men are totally able to control themselves, that’s why they’re not all rapists. Therefore stop blaming the rape victim for the abominable actions of the weakest and semi-animal males. Your argument is invalid and illogical. You’re clearly doing it wrong.

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It’s time society’s way of educating kids goes from “Don’t get raped!” to “Don’t rape!” Because I’m sure we’re all getting tired of this, no?

Alexandra

Me Vs. The World: Skinny

12 May

Hola people! 🙂

So… What’s with girls’ obsession to be skinny nowadays? When you Google “I want to be” on Google “I want to be skinny” is the first suggestion. Well it’s probably because it’s soon gonna be summer in the northern hemisphere and almost everybody is going to try to make the best of the weeks that are left to look good in a bikini. They’re gonna try to get abs and a nice lil’ ass and lose love handles and stuff. That’s okay I guess.. Being fit is not a crime and it’s not unhealthy either. What is unhealthy is some people’s obsession with being “skinny”. What is “skinny” anyway? Well here is a dictionary meaning:

Skinny.

skin·ny

adj. skin·ni·erskin·ni·est

1. Very thin.
2. Of, relating to, or resembling skin.
What I understand from this definition and from this obsession is that some girls are ready to starve themselves to look like skin. I’m not joking. It’s all over social media sites. Pictures that are supposed to be motivating and inspiring are literally scaring me. Some of these pictures say: “wish my thighs did not touch” or “I will be skinny one day even if it means starving myself.”
When I look at these pictures it makes me wonder. What kind of society are we living in that people have to make such a fuss about their becoming skinny? Is it an influence from the media or the fashion world or both? Is skinny really prettier compared to ‘not-skinny’? Does it all even really matter?
Okay. I realise that I am making quite a deal about all this. The reason behind this is that I am skinny and I don’t get why people want to be skinny that much. It is not really that much fun. It is no really that practical. I doesn’t give me any particular self-confidence about my body. Actually I don’t even really like being skinny. I’m always trying to gain some weight but it just doesn’t seem to work. You may say that girls are never satisfied with what they have or that I’m just stupid for not appreciating the fact that I have what many other girls are dying for but hey, every body type comes with its own problems and its own advantages.
So let’s set the record right; I am an ectomorph. I have a thin and fragile-looking body; thin arms and legs; little body fat and lean muscle mass and even if well fed I don’t gain weight easily because I have a fast metabolism. Sometimes if I miss dinner I can lose that one kilogram that had taken months to gain. Now, don’t you dare say it’s great and how you wish you could lose weight like that! It’s not fun to me.  I’m nearly eighteen and I still look like a 12 year old. I even still wear clothes from the children’s section. I actually can still wear the same clothes as I did 6 years ago. I don’t, but that’s only because I don’t like them anymore now. I’m so tired of hearing people tell me “It’s easy for you, you are skinny.” You’d think it’s easy to find clothes your size when you’re skinny. Hell no! Here in Mauritius, almost every time I find something cute I want to buy it’s not available in my size. Even on E-bay the things I like are only available in M, L or XL. I get that these sizes are important but so is S and XS, right? No? Apparently not.
I understand that the “curvy” girls have felt left out by society at some point, but is it a reason for another size-wise propaganda? And it’s all over the internet again:
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Now, this is not in any way funny. This is just as rude and disrespectful as calling someone fat ‘fat’. And how is that supposed to make me feel anyway? How is that supposed to make me, together will all the other ectomorphs and thin girls, comfortable with our bodies? Are we seriously just some bones? Do you mean that only women with curves are ‘real’ women? Does that mean the rest of us are f*cking imaginary? Well, excuse me but I happen to exist and I believe that all women are real regardless of their body size.
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 It’s really time we stop and seriously think before we say something that will hurt someone. Let’s take a minute to realise that, honestly, a whole lot of our assumptions about people are just wrong. Nobody is perfect and everyone has their problems. How people look rarely reflects what is going on in their lives. Whoever said that sh*t about real men liking curves and dogs going for bones has a real problem.This person felt the urge to bring down people so as to feel good about herself. This is not how it works. Sure some people are ‘fat’ but they can’t all help it and I’m sure it’s not that easy for them to lose weight but the same goes for skinny people. I can’t help being skinny. I did not even choose to be skinny. Women should stop bringing down other women to be able to feel good about their bodies. It’s not because you are skinny that you can eat all the junk you want and not get cholesterol or diabetes and it’s not because you are curvy that you are bound to have cardiac problems. Whatever size you are is just perfect as long as you feel good and are healthy. Nothing justifies being that conceited and critical. So here’s to all those haters who have to drag people in the mud to feel good about themselves:
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Think about it. Love yourself. Stay healthy. Be happy. Spread the love. You ARE beautiful 🙂
Alexandra

Things You Can Do When Your Parents Say “No!”

19 Jan

It happened again! Your parents said ‘no’ to something you asked. You may be feeling disappointed, furious or even revengeful. Maybe you’re hating on life, on the world or yelling at your siblings for no apparent reason. The thing is, you really wanted that thing and they said ‘no’. Don’t let your hopes down already! Here are some ways to convince your parents or to get the oh! so coveted object anyway.

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Your parents probably have pretty good reasons for responding in the negative and in their minds these reasons may be sounding pretty good and reasonable, so the best way to get them to reconsider their decision is to sit down together and have a civilized conversation. Their reasons will likely circle around certain issues. Your health, society’s point of view, the rest of your family’s point of view, money… So here’s the catch; except for the last issue, they all point out to one thing- your parents love you and worry about you. The key is reassuring them. However if you notice that they have quite good points don’t press on too much and instead try to compromise or find alternatives to your project(s) that suit everybody 🙂

Example situations:

  • You want to lighten your hair or get yourself highlights.
    The process is not what I’d call “cheap” in a hair saloon and the damage to your hair can be considerable. No wonder your parents said ‘no’. Bear up! There’s an alternative! Lemon juice and sunlight, it’s natural, cheap and the damage from the bleaching process is minimal most of times 🙂
    Here’s the step by step process + some more alternatives 🙂
  • You want to get tattooed but you’re still a minor.
    If the size is the problem- try and find a small tattoo design on which both your parents and you agree.
    If the health factor is the problem- well it’s true, the health risks are real but there are ways to protect yourself to the maximum. Go to a reputable tattooing studio that employs only properly trained employees. Ask to see their license. Make sure the tattoo artist has washed his/her hands and is wearing gloves. Ensure that the needles and other equipment come from sealed packages or have been sterilized. What is the most important thing to convince your parents is to show them that you have done some research on the subject. They have to know that you are responsible, that you know what you are doing and that you will know how to take care of the tattoo.You want a piercing.
  • Essentially the same thing goes for piercings. Do your research properly an make sure your parents agree with you on the ‘where on your body do you want to get it?


However, if money is the problem try asking for that thing you want for Christmas or your Birthday or any other occasion when you usually receive gifts. You might just get lucky 😉

You could still face your parents refusal though, so instead of asking try to raise funds to pay it yourself(that’s what I’m doing for my 3DS).

For your birthday, ask your family members envelopes instead of gifts. You may just receive enough to go ahead with your project. If not, the amount you received can stand as the foundation of your special savings. Save up your pocket money, do odd jobs, sell some stuff you don’t use anymore-make sure you don’t regret it afterwards though! It can take some time to gather the right amount but then maybe the thing will have gotten cheaper!

Yet, it makes no sense to go through all the trouble of the compromise, finding alternatives and raising the money without asking yourself those questions: Do I really want to do this? and Do I really need this? Now?

Make sure it’s really worth your time and money 😉

Good Luck,

Alexandra


New Year Resolutions for 2013!

7 Jan

This year, let us all take one good resolution. This year, let’s be nicer people 🙂

It’s been a week since we entered 2013 and we still have 358 days left to make resolutions and strive to fulfill them. I thought that maybe, we could take up a common resolution: try being a better and stronger version of ourselves. You know, sometimes I feel like our generation is one of the most cruel and judgmental ever-I mean, look at all those hate comments on YouTube videos(and it’s just one example). I feel like we don’t have much respect for the work of other people. Teenagers can be so harsh *sigh*

Anyway, this year, I will try to be Super-Alex 😀 and you can be Super-*insert your name here* 😀

Do not lower yourselves to the same level of those people who tempt your middle finger so badly. Don’t give in to the popular trend of “hate”. Love and appreciation are so much more gratifying to your soul. Be nice! J

  • If your haters criticize you behind your back, it’s just that they’re too scared to tell it to your face so brush it off and keep in mind that you are a beautiful and amazing person! ❤
  • If they criticize you in your face, smile and say something like “Oh! I love your hair too!” then walk away.
  • Be a nice daughter/son. Try to obey your parents to the maximum. Looking back at last year, do you really think they asked too much from you?
  • Be nice on the net. See a video/post/article you like? Like it! Say it in the comments! It’ll sure mean a lot to the person behind this piece of work. See a video/post/article you don’t like? Don’t hate on it in the comments or on social sites. It’s pointless and hurtful. The maker/writer might have gone through a lot trouble and hard work to get this result! So if your criticism is nowhere near constructive, keep it to yourself! Otherwise the only thing you will achieve is hurting some people’s feelings somehow.

These are just a few of all the good things we could do this year. We could be more generous, kind, caring, respectful and still have fun! We don’t have to be rude to have fun, right?

Well, I know I’m kinda late for that but: HAPPY NEW YEAR! 😀